At Hubbard School, students are learning the value of pausing, reflecting, and making thoughtful choices through the Meta-Moment, an essential tool from Yale's RULER method for emotional intelligence. Guided by our school counselor, Mrs. Linden, this tool helps students connect with their best selves before reacting to challenging situations.
What is the Meta-Moment?
The Meta-Moment is a structured approach that encourages individuals to pause and consider a response that aligns with their values. By identifying their "best self," students learn to think through emotions, actions, and the impact they have on those around them.
Steps in the Meta-Moment Process:
Sense the Shift – Students first learn to recognize moments when they feel caught off guard or emotionally activated. Noticing these shifts is the foundation of a thoughtful response.
Stop or Pause – This is the moment to take a breath and allow space for clarity before reacting.
See Your Best Self – Students visualize their best selves, whether through descriptive adjectives or positive images, reminding themselves of how they want to be seen and experienced by others.
Strategize and Act – Using techniques like positive self-talk, reframing, or deep breathing, students choose a response that reflects their best self and upholds their values.
Why the Meta-Moment Matters
Practicing the Meta-Moment empowers students to make better decisions, improves relationships, and enhances well-being. By incorporating this tool, students develop critical emotional intelligence skills that will serve them for life.
Building a Supportive School Community
Through these sessions, Mrs. Linden is fostering a supportive environment where students feel empowered to handle their emotions thoughtfully. These lessons in self-awareness, empathy, and self-regulation contribute to a school culture grounded in respect, kindness, and understanding.
In Their Own Words
One third-grader shared, "The Meta-Moment helps me think before I act. I feel proud when I choose to be my best self."
As students continue to explore the Meta-Moment, they are learning that a brief pause can make a big difference. By bringing emotional intelligence to the forefront, Hubbard School is equipping students with tools for thoughtful actions and lifelong skills for success.